So for a little while there I felt like a lot of things were turning sour, I hate my job, my b/f is away, drama with K's bio Dad or as she calls him Bear, just felt like I wasn't in conrtol.
So I took control.
I got a new better amazing job that I start at the end of the month, I decided after talking too K, her Grandfather, my father, my b/f and friends to end all contact with Bear, and I've made more time for my b/f getting up early to skype and wow old fashioned snail mail is somehow romantic.
Thanks too some amazing friends and wonderful family and a boyfriend that makes me feel lol well he makes me feel like it will all have a happily ever after....
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Sometimes the best way to deal with that situation is for the relationship simply to not exist unless absolutely necessary.
It's sad, as effective communication is vital for good co-parenting. But I was guilty of thinking that discussing issues about the kids would be good after the split, when communication was bad in the first place...how would it get BETTER after divorce? It didn't...so I cut the cord.
Well weirdly enough K's bio Dad and never had so much as a disagreement until I decided to proceed with the pregnancy against his wishes I think I was holding out for him to realize how much he needed her probably more than she needs him. Makes me sad for them both but I was so proud of how K handled it all.
I tried and tried until I received an out of control, insulting, scream-at-the-top-of-your-lungs voicemail a few years ago.
I kinda looked at the phone like it had ears, stopped listening, deleted the message and hung up.
It was right then I decided things would be better if there wasn't communication. What little was there wasn't helping anyway.
But you know what, I've grown SO much since then...as a person and a father. She's still trying to incite arguments. In fact, if any email I get from her is any more than a couple of sentences, I just delete it.
...and other times, I usually end up thanking her for reminding me just how good life is now. :-)
I get that, as soon as I decided not to have any contact with him, I felt a huge weight lifted :o)
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